My greatest strength and accomplishment in life was in raising my 2 daughters singlehandedly. I separated from their Dad at first sign of physical abuse towards our then 2-year old first born, immediately after the birth of our second child.
Without financial support from their father, I happily worked 2 jobs to give my daughters a great life. I was an ambitious, driven and determined (still am) single mom who worked nonstop… but it took a toll on me, physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. I didn’t realize how exhausted and depleted I was.
And that’s how I got into coaching. I was my first client. And its the best investment I’ve ever gifted myself. I was in a state of confusion… and pain… not physical pain… but a yearning for something more…
As I journeyed inward… digging, weeding, clearing antiquated beliefs that no longer served me, I experienced a lightness of being each time a layer was peeled.
It felt so good and so liberating. The transformational shifts I experienced thru self-love and empowerment, breaking free of the box I unconsciously built for myself, is a process I want to share with you.
This coming home to YOU… call it self-actualization, personal development or spiritual connection… is a journey I love to facilitate to connect you to a version of you that is empowered, awakened and embodying your fullest and highest potential.
It is my desire to bridge the gap from where you now, from feeling stuck, empty and powerless to stepping into your true power as a creator being and manifest what your soul came here for…
Like a Horse with Blinders On
I led a very solitary life whose sole purpose was to be both mother and father to my 2 daughters, now 19 and 17 (2013). Like a horse with blinders on, my focus was very limited and almost self-serving. Work, kids, work, kids, work, kids…
With all my family left behind in Canada, I raised my girls alone with no monetary nor familial support. I was so very blessed to have attracted in my life wonderful employers who understood and supported me.
I took my girls with me to work, to various clients and when technology later allowed it, I worked remotely from home. I lived for the week-ends where the girls and I can go someplace fun and exciting. I took parenting very seriously. Tough love and all that…
I heard a snap from somewhere in my body…
A certain sadness grew naturally with my raising the kids alone for 15 years… but looking back, it was the arson, death and betrayal, all separate incidents, all in one year, that broke the camel’s back.
See, I was still carrying on, acting strong and putting out fires, when I should have been grieving and processing my emotions.
Fate intervened. I broke my knee in a ski accident same year at Christmas. I fell on my back after a loud snap from somewhere in my body. I prayed so hard “ please, Lord, not yet. I just need a little time to get my affairs in order and make final instructions”.
I remember counting my blessings as I looked around at nature’s splendor while I lay immobilized on the snow, waiting for help, feeling lucky to be alive. Then I thought to myself, “Geez, Tess, you should have been more dare-devilish and made this worthwhile!”
It was a pretty good scare and it opened up my eyes and resolved to live life to the fullest.
And then I got re-married. Who knew getting married would bring back unresolved issues from yesteryears?
The slow build of emptiness and stress with years of self-neglect and isolation was a guaranteed exhaustion and burn-out.
And a meltdown at work! One I am not proud of but it was a huge writing on the wall that my energy was drained and I was taken hostage by crazy monkey chatter.
What’s worse, I had alienated everyone I love, including the handful of friends who’ve stood by me for so many years. My husband described me as a matchstick ready to flare up at slightest provocation.
And it stopped me in my tracks. I looked around and there was no one left to point a finger at… but myself.
What a rude awakening! That led to more inner work, self discovery and obsession to self-mastery.
Now here I am…
Reminded that we are all called to be the salt of the earth, the light of the world…
Whether or not we’re listening, there’s never a moment that God is not speaking to us. At some point, there comes a time we take that stand, and decide to speak as the voice of God. It is a conscious and deliberate choice: an intentional divinity in action.
~ Tess Vergara
We all have a unique purpose that we have forgotten. We get so caught up with life that we forget how to live, truly, deeply, lovingly, meaningfully.
It is my goal and desire to facilitate that awakening… elevate awareness, self-esteem, self-respect, self-care, self-compassion… from heartbreak to heart-and-mind fully opened… awakened to our intrinsic beauty and infinite love… empowered, emboldened, engaged… in very grounded, practical and strategic methodologies.
Strategic Intervention + Awakening Coaching = SOUL INTEGRATION
Open Heart Mind Coaching is a powerful blend of Strategic Intervention, NLP, Awakening Coaching, plus over 25 years experience in Finance and Accounting, and my own overcoming of spiritual depression and awakening journey through the dark night of the Soul.
As a former Accountant, reconciliation and balancing is my expertise.
When applied to coaching, what that means is, we are reconciling and balancing your ledgers of life. Together we will audit, sort and reconcile what is out of balance and bring to light deep patterns that are throwing you out of alignment and integrity with your Soul.
Open Heart Mind Coaching is designed to help you create inner harmony, balance and freedom through inner reconciliation and soul integration.
No parts left behind.
It is a powerful integration of the practical and spiritual, left brain and right brain, masculine and feminine, and human and divine, so you feel aligned, whole, and at-one with your True Self.
If you are interested in getting more information about how we could work together click here .
Why? Because you can no longer deny your Soul.
I look forward to serving you.