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What I experienced from Money Breakthrough

I was just at my Business School’s, Thrive Academy‘s 3-day Money Breakthrough Event.  As a Strategic Interventionist who coach on wealth creation, emotional mastery and spiritual awakening, this is an event I look forward to the most.

Money breakthrough is more than just recognizing what limiting beliefs you have about money. It is going deeper and getting in alignment with your true nature and releasing from a cellular level what no longer serves you.


Watching my business mentor, Jesse Koren, wield his mastery and facilitate transformation is such a treat. He delivers it with so much heart, and compassion while delicately maintaining and balancing the energy of the sensitive hearts in the room. I learn so much from him.

The breakthrough I personally experienced was manifold. I grew up watching my mom suffer and promised myself I will never be a doormat, a punching bag, nor rely on a man, any man for my safety and security. Hence I’d been wearing a superwoman cape.

Underneath the strong persona, however, is a lifelong pattern that I’ve written many times about, the false belief that “I am alone”. I’ve made tremendous strides identifying and interrupting this limiting pattern, but this time, I want to be rid of it once and for all.

I started out really engaged and fully participating at first. I loved how people welcomed me back after being gone for almost a year. After a while, however, after raising my hand the entire day and not called on, I felt my bubble burst. I felt a sense of defeat. 

I was very present to an old thought pattern that said nobody was interested with what I had to say, that I was not that important, or I was not a favorite. For an aspiring international speaker, this is a setback, yes? I was aware my inner 5 year old kid was acting up.

The urge to have a tantrum and run to my room and slam the door was so strong. I don’t enjoy being somewhere I wasn’t wanted but I also recognize this is a pattern and my mind is making it up.

So I vacillated from being conscious to being unconscious. It was exhausting to watch myself split into two and constantly catch myself to reconnect back with the group. It’s time for major integration. Go beyond awareness to full embodiment that I am not alone.


One of the exercises helped me tremendously. I was still confused at what just transpired onstage, was still processing, when we were asked to do a partner exercise. State Mastery is part of my training with Anthony Robbins Mastery University so I shifted on cue.

But what was neat was to notice on top of flipping on my inner switch was the ability to quickly drop down to my heart and silence the mind. This is a new muscle I’d been playing with since Europe and Hawaii. And a huge new insight I was excited about.

To feel in my body that I have full control, that I and only I can flip on or off my power switch, quickly drop down in my heart, and also notice a shift in my partner’s state in reaction to how I was being was huge. This is a very powerful tool to take back your power in any situation.

Picture this, in the face of adversity, or, when a person is scowling disapprovingly in front of you, do you back off and dim your light, or do you turn on your light so bright that he has no choice but to shift?

External sources cannot control you unless you decide it. You and only you have control over your inner switch. Really. Your only job is to manage your energy. Everything else will shift and right itself when you step into your light and raise your vibration.

I played with this in all the partner exercises, and it was empowering to see my partners shift state and light up as well. We all went beyond role playing. It was a heart to heart, soul to soul communication. One’s transformation also elevated and freed the other. It was powerful.

See, In Oneness Consciousness, everyone is another you. There is no other. We are all mirrors of each other’s light and shadows. I believe that every person who has made us suffer has done it for love whether or not they realize it.

Conversely, when we have hurt someone, we too have done it for love. I always say even Judas had a role in God’s greater plan in the human evolution to higher consciousness. It’s time to fully forgive yourself and reclaim your innocence.

At every moment, every experience is inviting us to look within and let go of past hurts and unforgiveness. Our complicated relationships and discontent are all signs pointing us to where we need healing and breakthroughs.

Towards the end, I did get called on stage to briefly share what I wanted to breakthrough. By then, I was a hot mess. I felt so raw and vulnerable exposing a part of me that got squashed each time I wore my superwoman cape.

And the love and support from everyone melted my resistance and the cape. The safe space allowed me to simply ask for the oneness and belonging I was craving for. No judgment. Just pure love. And it felt good to release the junk and step into a whole new way of being.

The 3-day event was simply amazing. And I am so thankful and so blessed for the experience of great leadership and mastery by Jesse and by the Love Consciousness that is the Thrive Community.

If you are a coach, healer or holistic practitioner who wish to break free of your gremlins and grow your business, you might like to check Thrive Academy, run by a husband and wife team, absolutely brilliant, Jesse Koren and Sharla Jacobs.

They’ve now taught thousands and thousands of conscious entrepreneurs how to take their practice to the next level. Check out their generous offer of a full scholarship here: Client Attraction Summit

So, here’s my questions for you –

What does your deep heart really, really want – and what will you have to let go of to get it?

Which relationships, habits, patterns are sucking your life force energy leaving you drained, empty and un-full-filled?

Are you ready to to step into your own light?

Click here to schedule a free 45 minute Get Unstuck Breakthrough Session or email me at Tess@openheartmindcoaching.com and Awaken to Freedom and Light. 


How to be an Entrepreneur and not be BROKE

Wow! Mixed feelings after putting together an event for Bill Walsh and Powerteam International. Now it’s the day after. I am filled with gratitude and also feel like a balloon slowly losing air.

Ahhhh. Decompressing. Need to empty out to create new space for new possibilities.

So here I am introspective as usual… taking time to process, integrate and celebrate all the learnings, breakthroughs and growing pains that hosting this event contributed to my life.

Are you doomed to be broke? 

Since becoming self-employed in April, despite all the vigorous coaching training and certifications, even after all the immersive personal and spiritual development I’ve invested in, I share the biggest fear of most coaches and entrepreneurs I’ve coached: “Time is up, I need to get a job“.

So when an opportunity to host Entrepreneur Night in Minneapolis came up, I took it on without hesitation. My intention for myself and my community was to create opportunities, raise awareness and break free from fear, lack and separation.

It is now my intention in this blog to capture some highlights of the event, as well as share my own insights and breakthroughs in hopes that it will open your heart and mind and inspire you to keep going and fulfill what you came here to do.

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Entrepreneur Night Host Tess Vergara

Key #1 An abundance in gratitude equals an abundance in life.

I start my day with gratitude.  And I am grateful to Joe White, who broke his rule for me of only flying west and south of Delaware, and Christine Sherbert of Powerteam International. What an amazing, dynamic team! Thanks for bringing your gifts and passion all the way to Minneapolis!!!


Key Speaker – Joe White

And to our kick-ass VIP panelists: Kim Julen of Findingyourfiji.com, Alissa Sunshine Coomer of Sunshine Fitness Centers and Ken Keacher of Strategiesbook.org. Thanks for the personal support, big hearts and willingness to inspire the community. You rocked my world.


VIP Panelists from left to right: Alissa Sunshine Coomer, Kim Julen and Ken Keacher

Special thanks to Laura Strong, President of the Holistic Chamber of Commerce for the beautiful space, for thinking of everything and covering all the bases. You are amazing! Minneapolis folks, if you need a venue for your next event, check out The Metamorphosis Center.

And to everyone who made it and attended the event – THANK YOU! – for making it a fun and successful event. Your time and energy and your enthusiastic feedback made it all worthwhile. Thank you.

Key #2: Where there is no vision, people perish.

“What you need is a vision… a vision so strong it pulls you to achieve your dreams” – Bill Walsh, Powerteam International. (For a powerful visioning exercise, click here.) 

And my goodness, is my vision insanely big and ambitious!

Setting up Entrepreneur Night was like my firewalk, my personal breakthrough to fully step into leadership role. My default programming is to work solo so teaming up, networking and expanding my reach are huge breakthroughs! Yey me.

Key #3: Dump the scarcity mindset. Raise your abundance thermostat.

One of the expert panelists last night shared her story about having a “welfare mindset“. I call mine “single mom mentality” which I blogged about on “I will Survive“. Both are examples of a very limiting and non-supportive mindset especially to aspiring entrepreneurs. 

Do you ever wonder why lottery winners go broke again in 2 years? How about Donald Trump. Why is it he could bounce back, regain and even exceed the billions he lost? Check out rags to riches and together with me, step out of your comfort zone and join the 2% mindset club!

Key #4: Show those gremlins who’s boss!

My gremlins got activated while sending invites via emails and social media. It was saying all sorts of things like I was annoying, people are not interested, I’m crazy. Ya Ya Ya. No matter what your gremlins are thinking, say thank you and follow your heart anyway

I bought a selfie stick for my trip to Europe in lieu of bringing a tripod and boy oh boy did it come with gremlins to aggravate my already self-conscious self. My husband and kids teased me which .didn’t make it any easier. I promise. No one will get hurt during my travels in the name of a selfie.

Key #5 Stretch beyond your comfort zone

And Just when I thought the shaking and stuttering finally stopped when doing videos (see video #1), the selfie stick brought other things to the surface so I can finally release them.Trapped judgment and resistance is debilitating and eat away your power thus creating separation. 

The selfie gremlin cost me 6 days to do a follow up video. The resulting video (see video 2) took me to a whole new level that had me feeling simultaneously naked and victorious, overwhelmed and excited. Gremlin said: “You are not cut out to be a speaker”. To which I added “Yet”.

Key #6: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~ Jim Rohn

Joe White emphasized the importance of choosing friends and cutting off negative people. Not doing so may hinder your energy, vision and ultimate success. Look for like-minded friends who support you in your dream. Your network determines your net worth.


The subject of friends hit a sore spot when none of my so called friends bothered to respond to my invitation. This can easily dissuade someone who is not deeply aligned with their higher vision. Don’t let fear of how other people view you or fear of loneliness discourage you. Keep going.

Key #7: Find your Authentic Voice and be true to it.

Marketing and promotion is particularly where I needed to breakthrough. And I did. One of the biggest lesson was sending out a cookie cutter email from a template I was given. When I read my own email the next day, my skin crawled. It sounded cold, salesy and nothing like me.  

Glad it happened and was quickly reminded that “connection matters more than anything” ~Jesse Koren. Integrity, authenticity and connection are all necessary ingredients to effectively communicate your message. Glad I quickly recovered and changed my approach resulting in record high sign ups. 

Key #8 Own Your Value and Fall In Love with Sales

I used to say I’d rather scrub toilet than sell. That was my old limiting self talk. I just hate being sold to. I hated sales and marketing so much that I went to Business School of Heartselling, Thrive Academy, so I don’t sound like one of ’em pushy, salesy and sleazy salespeople.

Dena's Blog: I HATE sales but I LOVE my business - 4 tips to turn sales into sharing.

i knew that if I didn’t learn to embrace sales and marketing, I’d go broke and where would that leave me and my mission? If you have resistance to a sales pitch, recognize that you may be unknowingly projecting your own resistance to selling thereby repelling sales and clients. 

Key #9 Selling is a service.

When you come from a place of truly owning the value of your gifts, talent and contribution, it’s no longer selling. It’s service. When you can confidently say the value of your product or service is 3x, 5x, 10x more than the investment, you will stop shying away from asking for the sale.

And this is why I jumped at the opportunity to partner with Bill Walsh to host Entrepreneur Night as well as frequently promote Tony Robbins and other mentors because the work they do is phenomenal and transformational. I know the value of what they do because it changed my life.

Key #10 Money is Energy

Tho this didn’t come up at the event, this is an important concept I impress upon my clients.

“Money is evil”, “wanting too much means you are greedy”, “money and spirituality do not mix”, “those who have money scam people”, “you must work hard for your money”, “there is never enough to go around”.  What limiting beliefs keep you broke?

Many misunderstand money. Like everything in life it is just another form of energy exchange. It’s your beliefs that can make or break your financial success. How you view money and the meaning you attach to it is what gets you in trouble and keep you broke. Money itself is neutral. 

Key #11 Don’t fear failure; It’s part of success.

It was at Robert Kiyosaki’s key note speech at Peak Potential Guerrilla Business School that I realized I have been working so hard foolproofing my life, avoiding failure. His words still ring in my ears…. You haven’t failed enough! Cue Tony Robbins: “Hmmmm…. Something to think about!”

So here I am embracing failure. Eeeek. It’s uncomfortable to go against your familiar and automatic programming that you built to protect, prevent and keep you safe.

Robert Kiyosaki also said the world is full of smart, poor people. Ouch. I want to be smart AND rich! And if that statement turns you off, or triggers you, refer back to #10.

Key #12 Be an unstoppable force for good

Depending on where my client is at, I love facilitating an exercise where they can fully experience within themselves and know with absolute certainty and conviction that they are an unstoppable force for good.

It’s never about the money. Again, money is neutral, it has no value except what we attach to it. The value comes from what money helps you achieve. And for me to achieve my mission, I need to generate abundance and that is generated from within. Ask me how. That’s my expertise.

Key #13 Be Accountable, Get Coaching and Belong to a Mastermind. 

This is a very important key that was stressed a few times last night. When you get stuck on the proverbial entrepreneurial hamster wheel, GET HELP!

Entrepreneurship can be very isolating at times and it’s hard to find like minded individuals. Create a network of entrepreneurs who you can trust, feel safe to be vulnerable with, and with whom you can share and access collective experience, knowledge and creativity.

Key #14 Self Love is Key

Push yourself hard but not too hard that you abandon and sabotage yourself. Self abandoning strategies may make you loads of money, but your health, relationships and your spirit will suffer and give you clues you’re still feeling bankrupt, unfulfilled and incomplete deep down inside. 

Richness and abundance is not out there to get and strive for. It’s an inside job. And it’s waiting for you to activate it. You have a unique gift to share to the world. Follow your joy, listen to your desires, do what you love. Only with unconditional self love can you unlock true abundance. 

There you have it! I hope you enjoyed this blog post. I would love to hear your comments and feedback as well. Comment below or email me at tess@openheartmindcoaching.com and feel free to share.

Now I can go on my merry way to start my empty nesting celebration and laptop lifestyle.

Europe and Hawaii… watch out… here comes Tess with her selfie stick 🙂 🙂 🙂

If you are ready to unlock true joy and abundance and would like some support to get unstuck and transform your life, I would love to help.  Click here to schedule a free 45 minute Get Unstuck Consultation or email me at Tess@openheartmindcoaching.com.