12 Days of Christmas Video 11: Merry Christmas!!!

You are the gift you are waiting for this Christmas.

That sounds dangerously narcissistic and egotistical and goes against what’s ingrained in most of us, however, as Martha Graham beautifully explains it:

“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. “

So, what if Christmas is really about you Awakening your Unique Self from out of the box of limitation and darkness to your true Divine nature? 

In 12 Days of Christmas, I shared steps and processes on how to be fully present with, and allow emotions to be fully felt, especially painful experiences we’d rather deny or resist, so we can release what is blocking and limiting us from fully expressing and experiencing each present moment.

When we are fully present in the present moment, and not stuck in the past or obsessed with the future, we open up to the fullness of light, beauty and magnificence of the Unique Gift and Divine Presence inside of us.

“The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who lived in a land of deep darkness – on them light has shone… “

Growing up I always knew Christmas meant more than just decking the halls and giving gifts. Yet, I often wondered how to welcome the birth of Christ and not get stuck on “love one another as I have loved you.”

The concept of unconditional love seem far-fetched and impossible! How can you love thy neighbor, when thy neighbor is not loving thee back?

I also struggled with the call to be the Salt of the Earth, the Light of the World, mostly because I couldn’t see how, and also because I would much rather hide out and not bother anyone. Who knew I’d be sharing the solution myself as an Awakening Coach. Love how that worked!

So, what if to truly welcome the birth of Christ, to truly celebrate and embody the Joy and Spirit of Christ-mass, what if the real invitation is to first prepare the manger inside of us?

As within, so without.

Indeed, love is who we are, and truly, the joy of Christmas is in giving.

But until we open up and discover the Unique Gift that we each are, until we fully express and experience the love that we already are, and is our Divine nature, we are giving from an empty tank and depending on others to constantly fill us up, and still, never feeling enough.

Giving from an empty tank is what is flawed and what creates lack mentality and experiences of lack,  and the unnecessary suffering and imbalance it creates in our bodies – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual, that we look outside of us to fix and heal.

Giving to get feels manipulative and doesn’t feel good because you feel out of alignment with yourself. This creates guilt, shame and self-distrust, feeling unworthy and unloved, and that there’s something wrong or damaged.

You already are whole, perfect and complete. 

The busyness, daily stresses and traumatic experiences of life, plus the unconscious, limiting beliefs, false conditioning and programming installed in our psyche since birth, had us believing the reverse.

We were brainwashed to believe to keep looking externally for answers, approval, permission, wealth and permission while all the while forgetting, doubting or blocking our true loving and abundant nature which is love, joy and goodness itself.

We are all God’s children, each a Unique, Individuated Expression of “His image and likeness”.

“So we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.”

What if Christmas is about preparing the manger inside of us, and clearing the debris and junk out of our heart space, so we can make room for Christ to grow and shine from within?

Unraveling the untruths, unwrapping the true of gift of Christmas, the joy and innocence of the child Christ in you, the real you, releases you from the prison that separates you from yourself, and from pain of holding back on fully expressing and experience the love that is you.

Within each of us is the light of Christ waiting to shine and become visible. “For anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says, “Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.”

I love this excerpt by Fr. Thomas Keating that truly touched and opened my eyes to fully understand the human condition. He explains the role of ego in our personal and spiritual development and how at some point we need to collapse ego and meld it with Christ consciousness.

“We are invited to let go of the original ideas we had of ourselves as we emerge from the unconsciousness of infancy into self-consciousness and the need for gratification of our instinct for survival, affection, esteem and power, control, and the ego that has emerged out of those experiences along with cultural conditioning to constitute a certain self-consciousness or self-identity that we use to face the difficulties of life and responsibilities of family or supporting ourselves and living as a social being.

There is a deeper level of unity coming to consciousness without knowing what true happiness is and mistaking the gratification of our instinctual need for this happiness. We need a strong ego in order to function in this world, but at some point it becomes less of an asset and needs to be reduced in its influence in our decisions as it stands in the way of the true self with its particular symptoms, capacities and potentialities to live a full human life and indeed a divinely human life and that life is characterized most by capacity for love and compassion and letting go of our self-centered habits and behaviors of a lifetime that are etched in the brain… and will repeat… unless we resolve to change them.”

For some people, call to change is delayed and silenced by resistance to uncertainty and unknown so they’d rather stay the same and what they already know is safe, familiar, comfortable and secure. 

However, for others like me, the calling to change had become impossible to ignore any longer because it hurts much more to stay the same and not fully know, express, experience, share and fully realize who I AM at my core.

Life hurts like hell when you are at war with yourself and out of alignment with your true Divine nature; Life hurts when you can’t recognize yourself anymore because you’ve given away your voice, your choices, and power away; Life hurts when you see yourself self-sabotage.

Returning to your Divine nature, or Christ consciousness, or Higher Self Awakening, then becomes the only true source of inner peace. Returning to love is the only answer to life’s suffering, and the only option to fulfill the soul’s longing; Love then is truly the only way of being.

Awakening to your Divine nature can be difficult and seem impossible when done on your own. It is my intention as an Awakening Coach to make the shifts easy, smooth and enjoyable, so you can sooner come home to the unconditional love that you are and openly share your gift out to the world.

So this Christmas, take the time to open up the gift – the gift of you. It is time to free yourself from judgment, negativity, fear and shame that blocks out love and joy, reveal the true joy and love that is you, and allow Christmas to reign in your heart in every breath, in each present moment.

I hope you enjoyed the 12 Days of Christmas Videos. Merry Christmas and may your Divine Spark shine like Christmas lights all of 2016!  Blessings of love and prosperity and a Happy New Year.

Email me at tess@openheartmindcoaching.com if you have questions about this article, or to request a complimentary coaching conversation. 

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