My Story

22My greatest strength and accomplishment in life was in raising my 2 daughters singlehandedly. I separated from their Dad at first sign of physical abuse towards our then 2-year old first born, immediately after the birth of our second child.

Without financial support from their father, I happily worked 2 jobs to give my daughters a great life. I was an ambitious, driven and determined single mom (still am!) who worked nonstop… but it took a toll on me, physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. I didn’t realize how exhausted and depleted I was.

And that’s how I got into coaching. I was my first client. And its the best investment I’ve ever gifted myself. I was in a state of confusion… and pain… not physical pain… but a yearning for something more…

As I journeyed inward… digging, weeding, clearing antiquated beliefs that no longer served me, I experienced a lightness of being each time a layer was peeled. 

It felt so good and so liberating. The transformational shifts I experienced thru self-love and empowerment, breaking free of the box I unconsciously built for myself, is a process I want to share with you.

This coming home to YOU… call it self-actualization, personal development or spiritual path… is a journey I love to facilitate.

It is my desire to bridge the gap from where you now to where you want to be… to realize and manifest whatever it is you truly want… empowered and awakened to your full potential and limitless possibilities.

Like a Horse with Blinders On

I led a very solitary life whose sole purpose was to be both mother and father to my 2 daughters, now 19 and 17 (2013). Like a horse with blinders on, my focus was very limited and almost self-serving. Work, kids, work, kids, work, kids…

With all my family left behind in Canada, I raised my girls alone with no monetary nor familial support. I was so very blessed to have attracted in my life wonderful employers who understood and supported me.

I took my girls with me to work, to various clients and when technology later allowed it, I worked remotely from home. I lived for the week-ends where the girls and I can go someplace fun and exciting. I took parenting very seriously. Tough love and all that…

I heard a snap from somewhere in my body…

A certain sadness grew naturally with my raising the kids alone for 15 years… but looking back, it was the arson, death and betrayal, all separate incidents, all in one year, that broke the camel’s back.

See, I was still carrying on, acting strong and putting out fires, when I should have been grieving and processing my emotions.

Fate intervened. I broke my knee in a ski accident same year at Christmas. I fell on my back after a loud snap from somewhere in my body. I prayed so hard “ please, Lord, not yet. I just need a little time to get my affairs in order and make final instructions”.

I remember counting my blessings as I looked around at nature’s splendor while I lay immobilized on the snow, waiting for help, feeling lucky to be alive. Then I thought to myself, “Geez, Tess, you should have been more dare-devilish and made this worthwhile!”

An eye-opener

Determined to walk on high heels again and get my strut back, I took dance lessons as my rehab and soon enough I was walking and dancing and jumping and skating again!23

It was a pretty good scare and it opened up my eyes and resolved to live life to the fullest.

And then I got re-married. Who knew getting married would bring back unresolved issues from yesteryears?

The slow build of emptiness and stress with years of self-neglect and isolation was a guaranteed exhaustion and burn-out.

And a meltdown at work! One I am not proud of but it was a huge writing on the wall that my energy was drained and I was taken hostage by crazy monkey chatter.

What’s worse, I had alienated everyone I love, including the handful of friends who’ve stood by me for so many years. My husband described me as a matchstick ready to flare up at slightest provocation.

And it stopped me in my tracks. I looked around and there was no one left to point a finger at… but myself.

What a rude awakening!

Now here I am…

Reminded that we are all called to be the salt of the earth, the light of the world

We all have a unique purpose that we have forgotten. We get so caught up with life that we forget how to live, truly, deeply, lovingly, meaningfully.

It is my goal and desire to facilitate that awakening… elevate awareness, self-esteem, self-respect, self-care, self-compassion… from heartbreak to heart-and-mind fully opened… awakened to our intrinsic beauty and infinite love… empowered, emboldened, engaged.

Let me leave you with this quote from my mentor, Anthony Robbins.
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You are now at a crossroads. This is your opportunity to make the most important decision you will ever make. Forget your past. Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don’t think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.”

Let me be your guide to consciously and deliberately create a fulfilling and rewarding life you truly deserve and desire.

Click here to schedule a free 45 minute GET UNSTUCK coaching consultation to see if working with me is a right fit for you. You may also email your questions about coaching to
Tess@openheartmindcoaching.com